GOOD MORNING READERS AND FELLOW BLOGGERS, MAY THIS BLOG FIND YOU IN GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL SPIRITS!
Today I would like to dedicate my blog to “TALK IT OUT TUESDAY”, where I will share some advice on getting past issues and problem with individuals you may be facing currently. We all may have people that there is obvious tension between you two, that hasn’t been addressed or dealt with and my aim is to give you some words of encouragement in your pursuit of resolution. Understanding that these strategies may not be beneficial to all, but for whomever this may be useful too, I wish you nothing but the best. Ultimately we all want peace and drama free environments, but this can only be done through your initial actions!
“ACKNOWLEDGE THERE IS AN ISSUE”
“The first step in solving a problem is to recognize that it does exist” ZIG ZIGLAR
ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF THE EXISTENCE OF A PROBLEM OR ISSUE AND WITH WHOM, BEGINS THE JOURNEY TOWARD RESOLUTION OR CLOSURE. WHEN YOU HAVE THAT GUT FEELING OR AWKWARD ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM MOMENT WHEN YOU COME AROUND ONE ANOTHER, THESE ARE THE ISSUES I’M SPEAKING OF. IF THIS IS A VALUED RELATIONSHIP AND YOU WANT TO UNDERSTAND IT, YOU WILL COMPLETE THIS TASK OF PROBLEM RESOLUTION.
“ADDRESS THE ISSUE WITH THE INDIVIDUAL”
“A lot of problems in the world would be solved if we talked to each other, instead of about each other” NICKEY GUMBEL
OF COURSE IT BECOMES EASIER TO DISCUSS OUR FRUSTRATION OR IRRITATION ABOUT SOMEONE TO ANOTHER, BUT HOW IS THAT REALLY HELPING. MANY TIMES THE STORY OR VERSION BECOMES BROKEN UP BECAUSE VERBATIM TRUTH ISN’T DEMONSTRATED AND THIS IS WHY WE NEED TO TALK TO THE PARTIES INVOLVED IN THE ISSUE. WITH MUTUAL FRIENDS OR ACQUAINTANCES, CONVERSATION IN REGARDS TO THE ISSUE SHOULD BE SHUT DOWN IF THE INDIVIDUAL ISN’T PRESENT TO AVOID MORE PROBLEMS.
“RESOLVE THE CONFLICT”
“Don’t let people pull you into their storm, pull them into your peace” KIMBERLY JONES
ONCE THE MEETING HAS ARRIVED, THE GOAL IS TO BRING FORTH A PEACEFUL END AND DESPITE WHAT THE OTHER INDIVIDUAL’S AGENDA IS, STAY IN YOUR LANE OF PEACE. UNDERSTANDING AND RESPECTING THEIR FEELINGS OF EXPERIENCE IS NOT WRONG TO DO, BUT DON’T ALLOW THEIR PAIN AND ANGER TO GET YOU EMOTIONAL. WHEN THEY GO LOW, YOU REMAIN HIGH AND FOCUSED ON THE OVERALL OBJECTIVE WITH RATIONAL COMMUNICATION OF YOUR ISSUE OR OBSERVANCE OF IT.
“AGREE TO DISAGREE AND PART WAYS IF APPLICABLE”
“Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be” SONIA RICOTTI
MAYBE THE RELATIONSHIP DOES REKINDLE AND MAYBE NOT, BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY AN UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT WAS THE PROBLEM WAS ACHIEVED. IN SOME SCENARIOS INDIVIDUALS WILL PART WAYS AND AGREE, THAT THEY JUST DISAGREE ON SO MANY LEVELS AND THAT IT WOULD MAKE THEIR RELATIONSHIP TOXIC. THIS DOESN’T HAVE TO BE VIEWED AS BAD, BECAUSE NOW YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DIDN’T BEFORE THIS CONFERENCE STARTED. ALWAYS TAKE THE POSITIVE WITH YOU, SEEING THINGS FROM AN OPTIMISTIC VIEW, THE BRIGHTER SIDE OF THINGS AND MOST IMPORTANTLY……YOUR RESOLUTION OF PEACE!