“KEEP YOUR HEAD UP BEAUTIFUL”

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With an understanding of what it means to be and the things you encounter as a single mom, I am totally there with you all. Being such a sensitive and delicate subject, raising children alone can be very challenging and difficult, all while being one of the best lessons we will learn in life. We don’t plan this actual result out first, it just seems to be something that many females find themselves in once they become mothers. They think to themselves, how did we go from being so in love everyday, to you just walking out not on me but rather your child. Understanding that this isn’t a male bashing blog, I want to focus solely on how the single moms strength is impeccable and pay tribute to you all as you take care of your children with love and grace. As a single mother, we face daily issues and tasks alone that can put many of us in a state of depression or frustration. From food, shelter and clothing, the priorities that need tending to becomes overwhelming and great loads. Since we love our children unconditionally, we do it all and will protect them with every drop of blood in our system. We carry a whole living species inside our belly for nine months, spend the first two years of our little joys of life teaching many lessons, carry worry and concern for their safety and security every minute of the day and then watch them grow up right before your eyes, only for them to throw in your face how grown they are, MY BABIES! There is even more glory and praise for all the beautiful grandchildren that they bless you with and this is a wonderful feeling that brings much gratitude. I just wanted you to know that I am one of the ones who knows up close and personal the obstacles and fulfillment you get from motherhood. It isn’t fair to do it alone, especially when the act requires two, but know that this is the ultimate description of strength that you have embodied on your own. We are a community that may be looked at with pity, but that is far from what we use to keep going for the sake of our children.

TO ALL YOU SUPER MOMS, SINGLE MOTHERS UNITED, YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB AND THIS SINGLE MOM WANTED YOU TO KNOW THAT!

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“SUNDAY SHOUT OUT”

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THANK YOU GOD FOR YOUR EVERLASTING PRESENCE IN MY LIFE!

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GOOD MORNING READERS AND FELLOW BLOGGERS, MAY THIS BLOG FIND YOU IN THANKFUL & GRATEFUL SPIRITS!

Today I would like to dedicate my blog to “SUNDAY SHOUT OUT”, where I will share some S/O’S that I feel is needed and my goal is to inspire you in anyway possible. When I woke up this morning, I begin with giving God the ultimate praise because I know that I would not be where I am today, if God wasn’t present in my life. Everything isn’t perfect, all things aren’t going right, days don’t always bring sunshine and problems are common, but most importantly……I AM ALIVE AND THAT IS THE BEST GIFT YET!

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Many of us face trials and tribulations on a regular and begin to feel as if this is all that your life has to offer. There are people who make much effort and continuous work toward bettering themselves, all while others condemn or criticize you for such a vision, don’t allow yourself to be distracted from your goal. Your decision to progress in life and grow internally, is one of the most important decisions you ever made and never lose sight of the prize at hand. I admire and hold much respect to people who aim to go further in life and because of that I want o “SHOUT OUT” to you, YOUR AWESOME. It may seem as if no one notices or cares about your journey toward success, but I am the one who knows from a personal level and experience. This is why I wanted to pay tribute to those that don’t feel the acknowledgement from others on their great efforts and share some encouragement so that they won’t get discouraged. When things go wrong, don’t go with them and just keep your focus on the objective at hand!

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In a world where strife and evil lurk so commonly, it becomes difficult to be positive or think that things will change. When we view parents who have to bury their children because they were taken so soon, they have to channel that pain into something positive that can bring some good out of something bad. The police officers who actually aim to serve and protect, all in the midst of police brutality and homicide on black males, continue to allow their passion of helping others to lead them daily. The Politicians and Government Officials who make it a priority to aide and assist the people of our nation, all while working side by side with those who make this goal very hard. The Pastors in the community, who witness first hand the traumatic epidemics that plagued their neighborhood and continue to fight for what’s right, even in the midst of some of the city’s war zones. To you all who continue to be positive in the middle of much negative, I want to give you a “SHOUT OUT”, because this woman thinks you are AWESOME. Having my own experience of going through hard times and finding the positive in the midst of negative, can become draining and frustrating, but most importantly this is the tool that we call Faith. Always make the initiative to find something good in all the difficulties and obstacles you encounter, this is where you will find your strength and will to move forward!

Remember that in life and all your encounters, you will either have BLESSINGS or LESSONS and you never claim defeat because if your not getting something out of the situation, God is teaching you something from that situation!

I HOPE YOU ENJOYED MY “SUNDAY SHOUT OUT” AND UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN, BE SAFE AND HAVE AN AWESOME DAY!!

 

“CRYING 4 CHI”

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I live in Chicago and see an up close and personal view of what my city encounters, from homicides, assaults, police brutality and unjustified deaths. This is so heavy on my heart because with being an Chicago Native, I just don’t remember growing up with this awful epidemic that has plagued my home of residence. It becomes overwhelming and emotionally stressful to look at the news daily and just see so much death. Unfortunately our city is devastated by yet another unjustifiable death from a Police Officer of another black man and with video footage and witnesses, it seems as if something is just not legal in this case. But this seems to be a common feeling for us Chicagoan’s and if the police not killing us, our own people are doing it. This is why I am one of the ones who sheds tears when I see one of the neighborhood guys shot dead in the street or watching the news and hear the number of homicides that occurred just within the weekend. I have two sons and three grandsons, whom I pray for daily and ask God to protect them in this combat war zone perimeter that they reside in. One of the local Pastors in Chicago initiated and implemented a shut down of one of the major expressways, just to bring some attention to this horrible epidemic that lives in the walls of our county. It will take more than just him or some assembled protest, for us as civilians in this big city to actually see a change.

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On a personal level, I have actually lost my husband to the horrific streets of Chicago and in 2009 he was murdered and threw in the back of the trunk of a car. Not only was he a victim to the harsh realities of this city, but homicides like this leaves more pain behind than with the actual crime itself. To see your husband leave you one day and never see him alive again, is one of the most traumatic scenes I have ever witness. From that knock on the door from detectives, hearing the news that he has been killed, identifying his corpse, claiming his possessions, informing loved ones of his passing, signing a death certificate, viewing his body in his casket and watched him be lured down in the ground…..THIS IS TOO COMMON FOR MANY WOMEN LIKE ME IN THE CITY OF CHICAGO!

Something has to change and real soon because the males are not the only ones fed up and fueled with revenge, these victims have left behind seeds and offspring. If a beginning of a solution to a long lasting problem doesn’t evolve, I feel as if the homicide rate will increase, because their is too much pain and anger that roam the streets of CHICAGO!

“PRAYING FOR THE CITY OF CHICAGO”

“MONDAY MESSAGE”

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MOTIVATING MANY, ON THIS MONDAY MORNING…….THIS MESSAGE IS 4 U!!

GOOD MORNING READERS AND FELLOW BLOGGERS, MAY THIS BLOG FIND YOU IN THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL SPIRITS!

Today I would like to dedicate my blog to “MONDAY MESSAGE”, where I will share with you some inspiration and encouragement for the start of your week. It is important that you believe in yourself and know that whatever it is you want to achieve in life, can and will be achieved, So therefor I ask you today, HOW WILL YOU BECOME “ADDICTED TO PROGRESS”?……………………………………

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“STARVE YOUR DISTRACTIONS”

When you are on the track toward setting goals and accomplishing them, there is always something that intervenes or shifts your attention. These are distractions that steer you away from the desired destination and the reason why you may not stay on point. I want you to think about things or people, who are not aiding or supporting you in your efforts of progress. Anything that stops, halts, prevents, hold you back or tries to discourage you, are distractions toward your goal and you must stop giving life to these things. This is exactly what is meant by “STARVE YOUR DISTRACTIONS”. So what actually is a distraction that needs to be starved, all things that persuade you against what it is you truly want to do. How many of you have this vision or dream and you share it with others, only to have them state everything negative against your vision that you shared. Listening to others opinions and views, that don’t align up with your desires, will only make you feel like maybe it is a bad idea. Don’t grant this type of power to anything or anyone and believe in yourself that it can be done. Just think if you didn’t expose your thoughts and you succeed, will you listen to their negativity then….no, you will take it for the envy and jealousy that it represents. Therefor you must do it in the beginning when you encounter such distractions in regards to your ambitious efforts. Nothing can have life in your life, unless you give it life, so don’t feed the things that are negative and non-motivating because that doesn’t help you. Start today on the new beginning of this week and everything that has been a distraction in your life towards your goals you set, DON’T GIVE THEM ANOTHER PIECE OF YOUR DESIRES AND STARVE THEM TO DEATH! Instead I want you to focus on the task, goals, wants, changes, desires, needs, priorities and self…..which leads you to……

“FEED YOUR FOCUS”

Whatever you put into to something, is what you will get out of it and in regards to the things you want out of life, you have to focus all your attention on them things. The only way to grow is to get uncomfortable and the only way to achieve your goals is to work on them continuously and consistently. Basically this is what it is meant by “FEED YOUR FOCUS”, and that’s exactly what happens when you do, you grow, progress, see the improvement and are able to reap all of the positive results and rewards. It does come challenging to not become distracted by the non-factor elements that you come across in your journey toward destiny, but you must always keep your eye on the prize at hand. Understanding that the most important thing is that the goal must be achieved, you have to focus entirely on the tasks, schedule, assignments, duties, procedures and tools that are needed for the ultimate objective. Make the meal a day that feeds all of the desires that you have set in place to focus on and distract yourself from the possible distractions that you may have. Starting today on this new week, I want you to challenge yourself that for the entire week you will not give life to anything that doesn’t support what you are aiming for in your life and do at least one thing a day that will move you closer to your goal. Take this message and use it as your motivator to become…….

“ADDICTED TO PROGRESS”

 

I HOPE YOU ENJOYED MY “MONDAY MESSAGE” AND UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN, BE SAFE AND HAVE AN AWESOME DAY!!

“SUNDAY SOUL FOOD”

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YOU ARE MORE THAN WHAT YOU APPEAR AND YOU HAVE MORE TO OFFER THAN YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE!

GOOD MORNING READERS AND FELLOW BLOGGERS, MAY THIS BLOG FIND YOU IN THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL SPIRITS!

Why do many of us become depressed over how we look? Why don’t they want me? What do they have that I don’t? What can I do to look that way? Why do I feel like this? Why am I fat? Why I am I skinny? Why don’t I look that good? Why do I look so bad?………… STOP IT, STOP IT, STOP IT…..CHANGE THAT MENTALITY AND ASK BETTER QUESTIONS!

Not only from a personal experience, but also from a stand point of witnessing these low self-esteem mentalities, have I heard these exact same questions. Now when we begin to change that frame of thinking and actually fill our minds up with affirmations, will we then view these changes in our life. In a society where sexual objectification is visible everywhere, many feel as if this is the goal to achieve or accomplishment to make. Each of us were made uniquely in our own mold and meant to be who we were created to be. That’s why today I choose to dedicate my blog to “SUNDAY SOUL FOOD”, where my efforts will be aimed at showing you how your physical appearance doesn’t determine you achieving your goals. In addition, I will share how loving yourself as you are can feed your soul and not allow your ego to focus solely on your looks.

“A CIRCLE OF STRENGTH AND LOVE”

You are who you are and were made to look exactly how you do, therefor no outside entity should be able to tamper with your self-esteem. The body you were given, was precisely designed according to your mixture of genes and no one else was created to that identical. Even identical twins have some sort of distinction that differs one from the other. When you think about your whole body as one; from the head to the toe and all elements in between, this is your individual “CIRCLE OF STRENGTH AND LOVE”. What does that mean to you? Well all of that compassion, generosity, intelligence, creativity, respectfulness, empathy, sympathy and all your physical features, is your entire mind, body and soul. As you watch, observe, view, notate and mimic others and how they are made, you will find yourself drowning in depression. Embrace you and don’t study on mastering an outside image, because the initial point of beauty starts from within.

“FOUNDED IN FAITH”

The things you begin to believe and think about, are more likely to illuminate in your actions. When you feel bad about yourself and the way you look, your jealousy and insecurities begin to show. But to start with a belief of you are something great and wonderful, those affirmations will shine bright on your face and release off that exact energy. This first step is the meaning of “FOUNDED IN FAITH”, because that is that seed of positive energy that you planted within you. Your ability to believe that you are beautiful on the inside and everything you do is surrounded around you growing, only fuels your self-esteem and confidence. Don’t ever look for this type of validation or clarity from outside sources, but rather begin with a knowing of who you are and love you for it.

“JOINED IN LOVE”

The strength that resides in you is physical and mental, which aides in dealing with life trials and tribulations. Your soul is strengthen through your thoughts and belief, which coincides between your physical and mental. When these elements come together through inspiration and encouragement for thy self, this is the  meaning of “JOINED IN LOVE”. As you take the initiative to feed your thoughts affirmations like I Am Beautiful, I Am Smart, I Am Good Enough and anything that states loving views of yourself, you begin to feel like that. Take your physical strength and get in shape, aimed toward the physical appearance you desire. Utilize your mental strength and don’t listen to any negative thoughts that your ego shares. Listen to your heart and feed your soul with only things of love, to fertilize your seeds of positive energy you planted.

“DON’T BE EYE CANDY, BE SOUL FOOD”

Anyone can look good and catch someones attention with their good looks, but beauty is an element that is meaningful from the inside first. From models, video vixens, celebrities, socialites, selfie stars and just drop dead gorgeous and fine as hell…..you must love you despite how others look. Don’t allow yourself to just be the made up image of attachments and accessories, but rather be an individual who illuminates such grace and compassion to all that you encounter. I would want to accompany people who lift my spirits, encourage my talents, motivate my ambitions and give off such great positive energy. You can be very attractive and not be stimulating with it, is the meaning of “DON’T BE EYE CANDY, BE SOUL FOOD”. When someone spends more time on how their exterior looks and not even attempt to work on their interior, the good looks will be the only thing that comes with this individual. Wouldn’t you like to be more than just that? I know I do and that is why on a daily I feed my soul and not focus on looking like an image on the outside. My pure genuine personality shows in my actions and conversations, that doesn’t include accessories or attachments!

I HOPE YOU ENJOYED MY “SUNDAY SOUL FOOD” AND UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN, BE SAFE AND HAVE AN AWESOME DAY!

 

 

 

 

“ME, MYSELF & MONDAY”

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SET YOUR SHIP TO SAIL AND REACH YOUR MOTIVATING HARBOR!!!

GOOD MORNING READERS AND MAY THIS BLOG FIND YOU IN THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL SPIRITS!

Today I will dedicate my blog to “ME, MYSELF & MONDAY”, where I will share a MOTIVATIONAL EXERCISE that aims at strategies and methods to reach your goals. Several years ago I created this activity with an objective for individuals to identify all barriers and distractions in their life, that limit the focus of achieving the ultimate goal. Many of us have a tendency to reach a fork in the road, setback, detour, unexpected circumstances and procrastination, that keeps us from pursuing our dreams. Think about the things that you have encountered in your life, in the midst of your daily routine and participate in this exercise for your own MOTIVATION AND INSPIRATION!

“SET YOUR SHIP TO SAIL, DESTINATION: MOTIVATING HARBOR”

I have designed a plan that maps out your obstacles based on the basic areas of life, compared to the obstacles that a Ship may encounter on their journey toward the destination. Taking these two different sets of elements, my objective is to allow you to identify the areas that need work and improvement, in order for your ship to reach your harbor. I deeply encourage you all to try this activity and hopefully it will open your eyes to some changes that need to be made in your life, just like it did me. To give you a better understanding of what I have created, I will share with you my version of this exercise based on my life. Be open minded, honest, genuine and receptive to what areas that you yourself need to work on!

 

STEP 1: YOUR INFORMATION

NAME YOUR SHIP: USAFAMILIA

NAME YOUR MOTIVATING HARBOR: BED & BREAKFAST INN OWNER

 

STEP 2: REVIEW THE LIFE AND SHIP OBSTACLES

LIFE AREA OBSTACLES: 1. INDIVIDUALITY               

2. OCCUPATION

3. FAMILY & HOME

4. EDUCATION

5. COMMUNITY

SHIP OBSTACLES: 1. ANCHOR

2. ICE BERG

3. MECHANICAL MALFUNCTION

4. STORM

5. HIGH WAVES

ANCHOR = A HOLD DOWN OR A STABLE ENVIORNMENT

ICEBERG = A PART OF EARTH THAT IS NOT MOVED

MECHANICAL MALFUNCTION = REPAIR THAT NEEDS ATTENDING TO

STORM = HEAVY RAIN WEATHER THAT COULD BE DANGEROUS

HIGH WAVES = RAPID WATER WITH DANGEROUS CONDITIONS

 

STEP 3: MATCH YOUR LIFE AREA OBSTACLES WITH THE OBSTACLES TO YOUR SHIP

1. INDIVIDUALITY…………………………………………..ANCHOR

2. OCCUPATION………………………………………………HIGH WAVES

3. FAMILY & HOME…………………………………………STORM

4. EDUCATION………………………………………………..MECHANICAL MALFUNCTION

5. COMMUNITY……………………………………………….ICEBERG

 

STEP 4: EXPLAIN WHY YOU MATCHED EACH OBSTACLE WITH THE OTHER OBSTACLE.

1. INDIVIDUALITY/ ANCHOR:

WHEN I FIRST CREATED THIS EXERCISE, THIS OBSTACLE WAS MY HOLD BACK AND AT THIS TIME IN MY LIFE, IT IS THE STABLE ENVIRONMENT THAT I MAINTAIN. IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO GET TO THIS POINT IN MY LIFE, BECAUSE I WAS THE ONE HOLDING MYSELF BACK FROM ACHIEVING THE GOALS I SET IN MY LIFE. WE MUST LOOK AT THE DEEPER SELF WHEN IT COMES TO THIS AREA OF LIFE AND SHIP OBSTACLE. REMEMBER THAT IT CAN HOLD YOU BACK FROM YOUR GOALS, OR CAN BE THAT STABLE FOUNDATION FOR YOU TO BEGIN TO BUILD AS YOU WORK ON YOUR GOALS.

2. OCCUPATION/ HIGH WAVES:

WITH MANY YEARS OF EXPERIENCE IN THE WORK FORCE, THIS AREA OF MY LIFE HAS BEEN AN UP AND DOWN HILL BATTLE. SOME POSITIONS WERE GREAT WHILE OTHERS WERE JUST STEPPING STONES. BUT WHEN I MADE THE INITIATIVE TO AIM TOWARD A CAREER, I BEGIN TO SEE A SHIFT IN MY WORKING PATTERNS. I NO LONGER JUST TOOK A JOB TO HAVE INCOME, I MADE IT MY BUSINESS TO ONLY APPLY FOR POSITIONS THAT WERE IN MY FIELD OF CAREER OR COULD ENHANCE THE SKILLS I CURRENTLY POSSESS. YES IT IS IMPORTANT TO HAVE A SOURCE OF INCOME, BUT IT’S NOT OKAY TO WASTE YOUR TIME OR OTHER COMPANIES TIME BECAUSE YOU DON’T LIKE THE JOB. TAKE THE ADVANTAGE OF THE CHOICE THAT YOU HAVE AND WORK IN POSITIONS THAT YOU DO WHAT YOU LOVE OR ENJOY, BECAUSE YOU WILL STAY LONGER AND PERFORM BETTER. EVENTUALLY YOU WILL LAND THE POSITION, IN THE CAREER FIELD, OF YOUR CHOICE AND MAKE THE INCOME TO TAKES YOU TO THE NEXT LEVEL. UNFORTUNATELY I AM CURRENTLY STUCK AT THIS POINT, DUE TO NOT HAVING THE TOTAL FINANCES TO REACH MY DESTINATION HARBOR. BUT TRUST AND BELIEVE I AM NOT JUST GIVING UP BECAUSE I HAVE A PLAN AND A MAP!

3. FAMILY & HOME/ STORM:

BEING A MOTHER HAS SHOWN ME THAT EVEN AFTER MY 40’S, I AM STILL LEARNING ABOUT PARENTING AND WHEN IT COMES TO THIS AREA, YOU CAN NEVER REALLY PREDICT MOTHER NATURE. HARD TIMES AND TRAUMATIC SITUATIONS HIT ALL FAMILIES AND MANY EFFORTS ARE MADE TO SURPASS THOSE CHALLENGING MOMENTS. WHEN CHAOS HITS HOME AND YOU FIND YOURSELF IN THE MIDST OF IT’S DESTRUCTION, YOU CHOOSE TO FIGHT FOR THOSE YOU LOVE AND PRAY FOR POSITIVE OUTCOMES. IF YOU FIND YOURSELF CAUGHT IN THE RAIN, WITHOUT AN UMBRELLA, WHAT DO YOU DO, DEAL WITH THE COLD AND WETNESS, UNTIL YOU ARE ABLE TO SEEK SHELTER WHILE THIS PASSES. YOU UNDERSTAND THAT YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO JUST STOP THE MADNESS AT ONCE, BUT YOU UTILIZE METHODS AND STRATEGIES THAT AIDE IN YOU MAKING IT THROUGH. TALK CALMLY, BE RATIONAL, DON’T PANIC OR BECOME FRUSTRATED AND MOST IMPORTANTLY FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE THAT YOU WANT TO SEE. RESPECT ALL VIEWS, APOLOGIZE WHEN NECESSARY AND FORGIVE WITHOUT HESITATION, ALL WHILE BEING PATIENT FOR THIS TO BLOW OVER OR BE RESOLVED.

4. EDUCATION/ MECHANICAL MALFUNCTION

WITH JUST 30 CREDITS AWAY FROM MY BACHELORS DEGREE IN BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION, MY FINANCIAL AID FUNDS HAVE BEEN EXHAUSTED AND I AM UNABLE TO FINISH AT THIS TIME. AS I WILL MAKE CONTINUOUS EFFORTS TOWARD COMPLETING MY COURSE AND GRADUATING, I BECOME INSPIRED BY LOOKING AT HOW FAR I HAVE COME. UNDERSTANDING THAT THIS IS AN AREA THAT I HAVEN’T BEEN ABLE TO SURPASS, YET, MY MISSION AND JOURNEY TOWARD MY DESTINATION CONTINUES AND WILL NOT STOP UNTIL I HAVE REACHED MY GOAL. WHAT IT DOES DO IS HELP ME TO IDENTIFY WHERE I NEED TO APPLY MORE FOCUS AND EFFORTS ON, IN REGARDS TO OBTAINING THE DESIRED ACHIEVEMENT. I FEEL GOOD TO KNOW THAT THIS CAN BE FIXED AND CORRECTED, BECAUSE IT IS REPAIRABLE (ACHIEVABLE) AND A MUST TO GET BACK ON MY JOURNEY. IN THE MEAN TIME TO NOT STEER AWAY FROM CONSISTENT LEARNING, I AM ALWAYS STIMULATING MY MIND WITH RESEARCH AND KNOWLEDGE IN THE DESIRED CAREER CHOICE OF “BED & BREAKFAST OWNER”!

5. COMMUNITY/ ICEBERG

WE ARE NOT ABLE TO CHANGE EVERYONE IN SOCIETY, BUT WE MOST DEFINITELY HAVE THE ADVANTAGE OF CHANGING OURSELVES. THE NEIGHBORHOOD AND PEOPLE MAY NOT BE ABLE TO BE MOVED, BUT JUST LIKE WHEN YOU SEE A HOLE IN THE GROUND, YOU GO AROUND THEM. SOMETIMES IT DOES BECOME DIFFICULT TO AVOID CERTAIN SCENARIOS WITHIN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD, BUT YOU DO HAVE THE OPTION TO CHOOSE TO NOT GET INVOLVED IN ILLEGAL OR NEGATIVE ACTIVITY. IN ADDITION, YOUR POSITIVE ENERGY CAN BE SO STRONG THAT YOU CAN SHED SOME ON THEIR SOUL AND NOT EVEN BE BOTHERED. THERE ARE MANY THINGS AND SITUATIONS THAT OCCUR IN MY AREA AND SOME ARE VERY DANGEROUS, BUT WITH AN ARMOR OF FAITH ON AND A BODY COVERED WITH THE SON, I PROCEED ON WITH WHAT IT IS I MUST ATTEND TO. FROM GENUINE GREETINGS, POSITIVE ENERGY, DEEP PRAYERS, WISE DECISION MAKING AND MY BELIEF IN GOD, I AM SO THANKFUL TO EVEN BE HERE TO MAKE THIS BLOG!

 

STEP 5: REVIEW AND RECAP YOUR MAP TO YOUR DESTINATION

LOOKING AT MY PLAN I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO IDENTIFY MY AREAS THAT NEED IMPROVEMENT AND THE POSITION I AM CURRENTLY IN. IN MY JOURNEY TOWARDS MY DESTINATION, MY INDIVIDUALITY/ANCHOR HAS BEEN THE STABLE FOUNDATION IN MY LIFE AND AS I BEGAN TO UTILIZE IT TO FULLER POTENTIAL, I WAS ABLE TO RECOGNIZE MY GROWTH AND PROGRESS. STILL WITH WORK TO DO, MY SHIP HAS A FOCUSED CAPTAIN AND MY FUEL IS AMBITION AND MY STAFF ENTAILS MY STRENGTH. AS MY VOYAGE CONTINUES MY OBSTACLES INCREASED WITH MY OCCUPATION/HIGH WAVES THAT JUST WASN’T ABLE TO BRING THE QUOTA I PLACED ON MY JOURNEY TOWARDS MY DESTINATION. WITH A WILL TO PONDER THE BRAIN ON HOW I CAN REACH THIS GOAL, MY CURRENT INCOME STATUS ALLOWS ME TO MAINTAIN MY SHIP UNTIL AN OPPORTUNITY PRESENTS ITSELF. IN MY EFFORTS OF SECURING FINANCIAL SUPPORT FOR THAT QUOTA, I FIND MYSELF HAVING TO BE A MEDIATOR FOR MY FAMILY & HOME/ STORM WHO IS ABLE TO SEE AND FIND THE POSITIVE IN THE MIDST OF NEGATIVITY. IT BECOMES DRAINING AND GIVES ME AN UNDERSTANDING OF THE ISSUES MY MOTHER FACED WITH HER CHILDREN. UNDERSTANDING IT IS A CONSTANT BATTLE, YOU FIGURE OUT METHODS THAT CAN AID IN DEFUSING SITUATIONS INSTEAD OF PUTTING WOOD ON TOP OF THE FIRE. THIS AREA IS ONE THAT WILL FOLLOW YOU IN YOUR JOURNEY AND THE BEST PREPARATION FOR THIS IS TO BE AN ADULT. ACCEPTING THAT THIS KNOWLEDGE IS NEEDED ON THE VOYAGE, MY EXPERIENCE LANDS ME IN SCENARIOS THAT CAN PLACE ME AT ANOTHER HALT IN MY JOURNEY. TAKING MY EDUCATION/ MECHANICAL MALFUNCTIONS AS ONE OF MY FORKS IN THE ROAD, I MUST NOT THROW IN THE TOWEL OR TURN AROUND BUT RATHER PONDER MY BRAIN MORE ON OPTIONS THAT CAN WORK IN MY FAVOR. CONTINUING WITH MY SEARCH FOR KNOWLEDGE AND SKILLS IN MY DESIRED FIELD OF CAREER, THIS KEEPS MY BRAIN WORKING AND EVENTUALLY I WILL COMPOSE A SOLUTION TO SURPASS THIS HALT. NEVER GIVING UP THE GOAL OF GRADUATING, I’M JUST PLACING IT ON HOLD FOR A WHILE UNTIL MY FINANCES GET RIGHT. IN ORDER FOR THEM TO GET TO THE POINT I NEED THEM AT, I MUST STILL DEAL WITH THE COMMUNITY/ICEBERG THAT WILL ALWAYS BE THERE IN THE MIDST OF ME TENDING TO MY AGENDA. NO DISTRACTIONS AND NON-RELEVANT FACTORS NEED MY FOCUS, WHICH KEEPS MY MIND AIMED ON THE TASK AT HAND. YOU CAN ONLY HELP OTHERS SO FAR, BUT YOU MUST NEVER STOP HELPING YOURSELF AND IF HELPING OTHERS STEER YOU OFF COURSE, LET IT GO AND PRAY. GET AROUND THE SITUATIONS YOU CAN AVOID, CHOOSE THE WISE DECISION IN EXTREME SCENARIOS AND ALWAYS KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE PRIZE IN VIEW!

 

STEP 6: TAKE ACTION WHERE ACTION IS NEEDED AND WHEN YOU REACH YOUR DESTINATION………..PLAN OUT YOUR NEXT MAP!!!!

YOU MAY BE STUCK AT CERTAIN AREAS OF A POINT BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP AND WHEN YOU DO REACH YOUR “MOTIVATING HARBOR”, YOU JUST EVALUATE ON WHAT IT IS YOU WANT NEXT. THIS IS WHERE YOU WILL DESIGN A WHOLE OTHER MAP AND IT MAY DIFFERENTIATE WITH AREAS, AND THAT IS OKAY. JUST KEEP FOCUSING ON WHAT IS YOUR MOTIVATOR AND REACH THAT GOAL….IT’S NOT A RACE, IT’S YOUR LIFE!

SO WHERE ARE YOU GOING AND WHAT IS DOES YOUR MAP SAY ABOUT WHAT YOU NEED TO DO?

I HOPE YOU ENJOYED THE BLOG “ME, MYSELF & MONDAY” AND UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN, BE SAFE AND HAVE AN AWESOME DAY!!!

 

 

 

“SERMON SUNDAY”

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“WHAT WILL YOU DO?” START WITH LOOKING IN THE MIRROR AND BEGIN TO MAKE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE!

GOOD MORNING PEOPLE AND MAY THIS BLOG FIND YOU IN THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL SPIRITS!

Today it feels as if I have awaken with an anointed message that was destined for me to share on my blog. I have decided to call the blog my “SERMON SUNDAY” because I feel we will be going to church and receiving that GOOD WORD. My heart is heavy when I recall and witness so much chaos in society and we wonder what can we do to help? Many individuals have been courageous throughout history and took a unity stand toward battles they believe in, that have showed us their selfless mentality on a humanity level. As we see our society struggle with domestic issues, international confrontation and even unpredictable natural disasters, what will we do to make a change?

I agree that the first step is to take that look in the mirror and ask yourself what you want to change. By doing that, I was able to answer my question and then produce a “VISION”, that coincides with the change I want to make. My thoughts carried me to great legends who had dreams and destinies to fulfill, that paved a road for many of us to this day. When I think about what it is that I want, it centers around a safe and fulfilling life for my grandchildren. As we look at the youth of today, our hearts yearn for they to be the hope for the future and many of us just continue to pray that they make it to the future. In my childhood days, things like such were not our worry or even our parents on the level it is now. But then the experiences that our grand parents and parents encountered, are ones my generation is not so familiar with. I want to leave this life time with a assurance that  the new generations are at least given a chance to live a full life. My efforts on this “VISION” have began and I will continue to pursue the goal of viewing what I believe is possible.

The road toward this goal will not be an easy path and I understand that obstacles will arise. The conversation that I conducted with myself in the mirror, led to the beginning of my meditation sessions. I knew that it was important for me to take the time out and start “LISTENING” to what my heart was telling me to do. With a firm belief in prayer, my conversations TO GOD and my message FROM GOD could be heard in my meditations. In order for me to see it, I had to believe it and then I knew I could conceive it, which would then bring it to life. Sometimes it becomes difficult for individuals to determine what voice is talking in your head and that’s why if you close your eyes when you speak from the heart, the one that is “LISTENING”is God. Talk to that voice and not the big headed ego who may confuse you at times, by understanding that God will not give you negative advice or information. We may even find ourselves battling between the spirit and the ego, which is more reason why I meditate and pray. This is your nourishment and fuel for your spiritual growth, that aim is to move you toward your goal.

Now that I have envisioned what I wanted, took the time to pray and meditate on my desires, I must now begin to implement my creation. This is done through “TAKING COURAGEOUS ACTION”, that are volunteered acts from the heart to help others in need. I live near a shelter and many women with their children live there, but I have information that validates the not so comfortable living conditions that these families reside in. My heart would love to just let them all live with my family, unfortunately my space is not accommodating enough for everyone and I continue to ponder my brain to help on that level. This led me to think about what was in my capability to do and that’s when I begin the step of “TAKING COURAGEOUS ACTION”, by introducing myself to some of the women. My goal here was to share with them a personal experience of my own and let them know I was not here to judge and just wanted to pay it forward like others helped me. Some women were receptive and others I understand why not, but I was able to retain a connection with some and I help them out with unwanted clothes and shoes. The gratitude and appreciation on these women face, brought me so much fulfillment and I share many hugs, stories, laughs, coffee and just the good old prayer. The efforts of such and actions continue to this day and eventually I will have the aide to help these families in so many other ways.

The fulfillment of joy and grace, are great nourishment to my soul and I remember how it felt when I thought I wasn’t cared about. The biggest element and tool that allowed me to surpass so many of my trials, was my “FAITH” and it was the main ingredient to my recipe for survival. Having this tool is the connection I have with God and before I knew what this wifi wonderful was, my doubt had me ready to stop holding on. The relationship that I have with God, is an unbinding bond of love and everlasting trust that steers my life. Without the tribulations and lessons throughout my journey and the “FAITH” that I harbor, my strength would not be present in me. As each individual has their own story to live and tell, we all must not give up hope or belief in greater things occurring in our life. The patience is a must and important, because all things have and take a process and my tools from the Most High are greatly appreciated. I will continue to pray and believe that the change I illuminate, will have such a domino effect and I will view it in the world. Each of us must do our part and that part is solely on what it is you want to see in that mirror.

Put your wants in your activities and pursuits, that will place you in the direction toward what it is you want from that person in the mirror. I found myself providing a “SERVICE” to people, even though I am not a part of an organization designed for that. This didn’t mean that I wasn’t able to still help or give support and I made sure it wasn’t a barrier for me as well. In my daily coffee run, I encounter many homeless individuals and regular beggars. With a request to help on a regular, my help may not be able to extend on a financial level that day, so how can I help? Well I am a true believer in not wasting food and when my family have leftovers, I have made some plates and distributed them to some of those individuals. Unfortunately I am not able to feed all and God knows I would love to, but I just provide the “SERVICE” that I can at that moment. To this day many of those individuals know me just because of my cooking and the meal I was able to provide for them. I even take old clothes, shoes, bags and anything that I feel that someone could use, that my family and I don’t utilize anymore. In my eyes this start is huge and my prayers are to expand with others and help many on a gigantic level.

I LOOKED IN THE MIRROR, I SAW THE CHANGE I WANTED TO MAKE, I BEGIN TO IMPLEMENT ON ACTS OF PAYING IT FORWARD, I HAVE WITNESSED THE JOY I HAVE BROUGHT TO PEOPLE’S EYES AND I CRY AND SMILE BECAUSE THAT FEELING IS PRICELESS!

WHAT DOES THE MIRROR WANT YOU TO CHANGE, MAKE IT!!!

THANK YOU FOR ALLOWING ME TO SHARE MY “SERMON SUNDAY” AND UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN, BE SAFE AND HAVE AN AWESOME DAY!!

 

 

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